The Frenzied SLPs are hosting a Linky Party and they want to know…. What did you learn this summer? I had to think about that.What did I do this summer?What did it teach me?
I learned a lot of interesting things at the TpT conference, how to use new-to-me apps (Facebook Groups, Periscope, etc…), and that I HATE when my little one is gone for so long (6 weeks is the WHOLE summer practically!)
This summer, I had a huge to do list in my head.I was going to clean my house so that all EXTRAS would be gone (downsize!) and the house would shine!I was going to finish my daughter’s quilt.I was going to work on creating all the products swimming in my head.I have stepped up to the plate, gripped the bat of completion, and have only managed to hit a few balls as they passed the plate.My house has not downsized at all, and when it shines it only does so for a day or two, and my daughter’s quilt is not completed. Normally, this would cause me unnecessary stress and my anxiety would go through the roof!
SLOW DOWN AND BE IN THE MOMENT: Who cares if my house is a bit messier than I like.It will be there for me tomorrow to clean too.Even if I manage to make it shine for a week straight, my daughter will be home soon and it will be a mess in 10 minutes after she walks through the door.Why let my home stress me out?Time with my loved ones is far more important than if I have managed to downsize or not. Date nights with the Hub and Girls Night with Gambling Guru Grammy has been far more rejuvenating this summer than if my home sparkles!
TAKE TIME:We always hear how we should take the time to give to ourselves.Maybe a little pampering is in order.Maybe just take the day off and read all day.I don’t do this. I should.I know I should.However, I do not.Everything I do, I do for my family.I learned as a small child that we must work hard, sacrifice, and keep going until we are free from financial debt.Although part of that is a good lesson for a child.You know the part where the world doesn’t owe you anything and you must work hard for the people you love and for a better life.However, the unsaid part which suggests you work, work, work, and never play is a poor lesson to teach a child.I often fear that I am teaching my daughter that lesson.Her entire life she has seen me work, work, work and never play.She has seen me stress out about debt and that we can never “afford” to go on vacations that do not involve visiting in-laws.It got me thinking, I think I observed these same things when I was growing up.I do not recall many family vacations.So I decided change was in order!Don’t freak out.I will not be going out on a spending spree, throwing responsibility aside, and being frivolous. No, I have to be responsible still but I can still throw a little caution to the wind and just TAKE TIME for my family and myself.
Secret Ice Cream with Grandma- Summer 2015
I have been with my husband for 10 years now.We eloped so we never had a big wedding and we didn’t even have a honeymoon.We happened to be in Lake Tahoe for a weekend trip (this was when we lived in Sacramento and it was roughly a two hour get-a-way) and while researching possible places to get married, he leaned over with a devilish smirk and said, “Want to get hitched? I dare you!” So we called our families and said “Think of us in an hour because we are getting hitched!”Our families were not too thrilled about our spontaneous decision.That happened to be the last of the spontaneous decisions for us. (Well, my daughter decided to spontaneously be born three months early but that was not on us.That was her!) That was…. Until…. Now!
I have been saying for the past three years how I wanted us to take a family vacation.However, there was just never the time or the extra money to do so.My little one is about to turn six soon and time is flying by so fast I am rather fearful that if I blink she will become eighteen and ready to leave our home. What memories will we have given her?So, I made a decision.TAKE TIME!
Four days after she comes back from her summer vacation with my parents, we are going to quietly pack us up and put her in the car.She is naturally inquisitive so she will ask me a lot of questions.However, I plan to bite my tongue and not say anything until we are all in the car.Then, I will turn on the recorder on my phone and tell her…. “WE ARE GOING TO DISNEYLAND!”I’m excited to TAKE TIME with my family.This will be our first vacation without visiting family.It will be our first vacation as just our little family of three. Can I afford to go on vacation?The better question is, can I afford NOT to go on vacation?No one is guaranteed tomorrow.Time together and special memories are priceless.Besides, that is what credit cards are for.
What did I learn this summer?It wasn’t something I hadn’t heard or told myself before.However, it was something I planned to make sure I incorporated more into my life.Take time to enjoy the special people in your life.Take time to pamper yourself if you need it.Just SLOW DOWN and BE IN THE MOMENT, and TAKE TIME for yourself and those you love!
Tamatha Cauckwell is an ASHA certified Speech Language Pathologist with experience working in a variety of settings. Prior to obtaining her Masters in Communicative Sciences and Disorders, she was an SLP Assistant, a Self-contained Special Education Teacher, and a Preschool Teacher and Director. Her combined professional career experiences have given her a unique outlook and understanding regarding behavior management and collaborative needs when working with other professionals, colleagues, and families.